Today, I am re-posting my article from last year. I wrote this on December 31, 2014 and reading it today allows me to see where I was one year ago and gives me the ability to reflect on everything I have accomplished this past year. I can reflect on my life – the good and the not so good – and learn from it. Over the next few days, I will be writing a new article to help start off 2016. This will require me to dig deep into the events of 2015 and I urge each and every one of you to do the same. Take the time to reflect, learn and appreciate everything that life has offered you over the past year. Take the time to pull the lessons from everything you have been faced with and reflect on how this has helped you become the person you are today. Not a single one of us is the same person we were one year ago and whether we like to admit it or not, each and every one of us has grown, developed and learned.
Looking forward to sharing my next article….Stay tuned!
As we prepare to ring in the New Year and new beginnings I think it’s important to stop and think about what really matters in life. The answer to that question will obviously be different for each of us but it’s importance weighs the same no matter who you are.
The holiday season brings with it a mixture of emotions and stress. Now that the craziness is slowly diminishing, I think it’s important to take some time to reflect on the past year and set our intentions for 2015. I don’t believe in New Years resolutions however, I do think it’s a good time to re-group and re-organize ourselves in whatever way we think is necessary.
For me, it is a time to reflect on what I have accomplished and how I have grown through both the good times and the bad. I am without a doubt not the same person I was one year ago. My experiences and how I have dealt with them have changed me to the core. They have changed my beliefs, my needs and my wants. This past year I decided to dive deep into myself and get to know who I really am. I have decided to find my purpose and set my intentions both personally and from a business perspective. Although I have only just begun, the feeling is euphoric and as if I have taken the handcuffs off. That may sound strange but what I mean is that I am finally finding my true self and not afraid to show her off. Society tells us all the time “how we are supposed to be” so we cover up our true selves and over the years we bury ourselves deep down in a dark place. I’m bringing her back and guess what? I like her!
Our lives are filled with experiences that mold us. From our childhood we have occurrences that contribute to how we act and react in life’s court and most of the time we have no control over our emotions. How many times have you asked yourself “why did I do that?” or “why do I feel this way?” The answers are within each and every one of us, we just have to search for them, acknowledge them and validate them. Only then will you know your true self and allow ourselves to feel our true emotions – whatever they may be. We often don’t allow ourselves to feel happy, sad or mad because we think we have no right to feel the way we feel – I have learned that I have the right to feel whatever my heart is telling me to feel! No matter what anyone else thinks or says!
A friend once gave me this example and it resonated so deeply within me because I could completely relate. Think about a child that is crying and his mother or father tells them “stop crying, there is no reason for you to cry”. That child was told that they are not supposed to feel the way they are feeling. That is exactly what we do to ourselves when we don’t allow ourselves to feel our true emotions and therefore be our true selves. I have done that to my girls in the past and it breaks my heart to think about it. I don’t do that anymore. I allow them to feel their true emotions and then talk to them about it afterwards. I allow them to be their true selves, not who I think they should be.
So you may be asking ‘which is it? Are you finding your purpose or finding your true self?’ I’m learning that the two are so closely related you can barely tell them apart. Once you find yourself and who you really are, your purpose and what makes you happy will become crystal clear. Like I said before, I still have a LONG road ahead of me but I’m very grateful I’m on this road. I’m grateful it’s brought me to where I am and my hope is that many people will grow along with me. I don’t promise to have all the answers and I have no doubt I will stumble and fall along the way but I’m okay with that. I’m excited for what’s to come and so thankful for all the people that are joining me on this journey.
You all know how much I love quotes. I couldn’t choose between these two so I’m posting both of them!
“Listen to your heart.
Listen to your instincts.
Listen to inner voice.
It is your true self.
It will guide you to make the right choices.”
“When you stop living your life based on what others think of you real life begins. At that moment, you will finally see the door of self acceptance opened.”
I wish everyone a year full of Health, Love and True Happiness.